What we are, how matching works, our privacy commitments, and what you should know before your first meetup.
Knotted is a kink-first dating platform. The goal is simple: connect compatible people based on what they're actually into. We're not trying to be FetLife, Reddit, or a forum for discussing theory. We don't have public feeds, follower counts, or social clout dynamics.
You create a profile, define your role and kinks, set your preferences — and we surface people who match. That's it. The feature set is intentionally narrow because most kink platforms fail by trying to be everything: social network, dating app, education hub, and event calendar all at once. Knotted does one thing and does it well.
We're also not mainstream dating with a kink checkbox bolted on. Role compatibility — Dom, sub, switch, Daddy/Mommy, babygirl/boy, handler, pet, service, sadist, masochist, and others — is a first-class filter, not an afterthought. You won't be matched with someone whose dynamic is incompatible with yours just because the algorithm thought you had similar Netflix tastes.
Real compatibility signals: role, dynamic, kink interests, hard limits. The algorithm understands the difference between a Dom and a top.
No public profiles, no follower counts, no performance dynamics. Connections are private and mutual.
Your photos are blurred until you match. Your real name is never shown. Anonymous browsing is on by default.
Matching on Knotted uses two primary signals: role compatibility and kink overlap.
Role compatibility is checked first. If you're a submissive, you'll only see Dominants (and switches, if you're open to it). If you're a Dom/sub switch, your results are broader. You define this explicitly — we don't infer it from behavior or guess based on vague preferences.
Kink interests determine ranking within compatible roles. The more overlap between your kink list and theirs, the higher they appear. Hard limits are never surfaced as matches — if someone lists a hard limit that's one of your interests, you won't appear in each other's results at all.
We don't use engagement metrics (swipe patterns, message frequency) to train the algorithm. Your data isn't used to optimize ad targeting or "engagement." The algorithm serves you, not the platform's retention metrics.
Hard filter on dynamic compatibility. Incompatible roles are excluded entirely before any ranking happens.
Matches ranked by shared kink interests. Hard limits on either side remove a person from your results completely.
You both express interest → match unlocked → messaging enabled. No one-sided exposure.
The kink community has a legitimate reason to be paranoid about privacy. Exposure can cost people their jobs, families, and safety. We treat that seriously — not as a legal disclaimer, but as a design constraint.
Profile photos are blurred for anyone who hasn't matched with you. You control who sees your face — it's not visible to strangers browsing your profile.
You can browse other profiles without them knowing you viewed them. Profile view notifications are optional and off by default.
We never ask for your legal name. Your profile shows only the display name you choose. You can use any name you like.
Your kink interests, messages, and profile data are never sold to third parties. We don't run ad networks. We don't share data with data brokers. Full stop.
Email address (for login), your chosen display name, your role/kink preferences, and messages with your matches. That's it. We don't collect location beyond what you explicitly provide.
You can delete your account at any time. When you do, your profile, kink preferences, and messages are permanently deleted from our database. No archives, no soft deletes, no "recovery period."
No. Knotted doesn't index profiles publicly. Your profile is invisible to search engines, and your display name doesn't have to be anything close to your real name. There are no public-facing profile pages that Google can crawl. The only people who can see your profile are other logged-in Knotted members — and even then, your photo is blurred until you mutually match.
No. We don't run ads. We don't have ad partners. We don't work with data brokers. Your kink interests, browsing behavior, and messages are not sold, shared, or licensed to any third party for any purpose. Our business model is subscriptions, not data.
Yes. Account deletion is a hard delete. When you request account deletion, your profile, kink data, photo, and all messages are removed from our database permanently. We don't keep backups of deleted accounts beyond standard short-term database backups (rotated within 7 days). If you need confirmation of deletion, email us at knotted@polsia.app.
Only members you've mutually matched with can see your full kink list. Members who are browsing (but haven't matched with you) see your role and a general compatibility signal — not your detailed interests. Your hard limits are never shown to anyone.
All users must confirm they are 18+ during signup. We take underage access seriously — if you encounter any content or behavior suggesting a minor is on the platform, report it immediately to knotted@polsia.app and we will act on it immediately, including reporting to relevant authorities.
We can't technically prevent screenshots — no platform can. What we can do: photos are blurred by default, which limits exposure from profile screenshots. If you experience non-consensual sharing of content from Knotted, contact us at knotted@polsia.app with details. For legal action, we'll cooperate fully with law enforcement requests for account data tied to the offender.
Yes. Knotted doesn't make assumptions about your relationship structure. Whether you're monogamous and single, ethically non-monogamous, poly, or in a dynamic with a partner who's given explicit permission to explore — that's your business. We're a matching platform, not a relationship police. Your profile is yours.
No. You can set your experience level on your profile — whether you're new to kink, curious, or have years of experience. Matching accounts for this so experienced people can find each other, and curious newcomers can find patient, communicative matches. You won't be thrown into the deep end without context.
These aren't rules — they're practices the community has developed over decades. Use the ones that apply to your situation.
First coffee, a walk, a bar. Meeting somewhere public before a private scene gives you a chance to read someone in person and trust your gut.
Tell a trusted friend your plans — who you're meeting, where, and when you'll check in. Share a safe word system if you want a way to signal you need extraction.
Talk through limits, safewords, and what you actually want before the scene starts. Verbal consent during a scene is harder to navigate than clear pre-scene negotiation.
Standard is traffic light (red = stop, yellow = slow down, green = good). If someone refuses to use a safeword system, that's a flag.
If something feels off about someone's identity, trust that feeling. Video call before meeting. If they won't, there's probably a reason.
Discuss aftercare needs before, not after. Both parties may need physical or emotional support after intense scenes — this is normal and important.
You can cancel a meetup, end a scene, or unmatch someone at any point for any reason. You don't owe anyone an explanation.
Harassment, threats, coercion, or users who seem dangerous — report via email. We take safety reports seriously and act on them.
If you have a safety concern, privacy question, or something on-platform that needs attention, email us directly. We respond to every message.